It's Up To You

 

I see you ~

Working hard to figure things out,

Questioning if it’s possible,

Wondering if it’s worth it ~

Struggling to make sense of things – this moment, this life, this stuff you’re going through.

​

You wonder how much therapy you have to endure.

How many times around the block before change happens?

What does that even mean...  change?

Difference – modification – replacement – alteration.

Usually from something not preferred to something more desired.

Change is that action you want others to make.

Miserable job? The boss is a jerk. Unhappy marriage? The spouse needs “adjustment.” Crappy environment? The landlord’s to blame – or inflation, or politics...

You get the idea. There’s a lot of room for change in the world. And if we’re honest, we usually think it’s others who need to make it. But you already know how that’s gonna end – feeling stuck.

Here’s the truth – and the hope within it:  It’s up to you.

YOU are an active participant in the life you now live. 

In fact, YOU are the only one who exercises agency over yourself. 

Life is not happening to you – but because of you.

If you’re feeling stuck, wanting change, going nowhere – then it is up to you to make it happen. 

Hope begins when we own the responsibility for change to take place.

And what will that require?

A different perspective – which simply put means seeing things differently. Perspective is a viewpoint, an outlook, a mindset. It's also an attitude.

The critical starting point to making change is to consider how you are seeing the various aspects and situations in your life, and whether you might be able to walk around to the other side of your thoughts and look at them differently.

​

Walking around to the other side of one’s thoughts means turning the game grid, getting the bigger picture, hearing another part of the story. It might mean relinquishing beliefs about the way things "should" be – or acknowledging bias or suspending judgment.

The beginning of change starts with the mindset that change is possible. That it’s up to you and not someone else.

It starts with realizing that as an adult in America, you are in control of you. You have permission to take the reins of your life, to set a course, to change direction. 

It probably means letting go of long-held beliefs that have kept you looking at only one side of the issues.

This doesn’t mean that everyone else is wrong or that you’re right. It means that if you are feeling the need for change then it is important to recognize that you are in charge of making that change. For you. The likely reason it hasn’t happened is because it’s hard to modify perspective, alter a mindset, shift one’s thinking. Which is why the “others” you have been hoping would change haven’t already done so. 

​

When you’re ready to shift your life,

to get unstuck,

to move forward with hopes and dreams~

Start by knowing: 

                                                       

                                                            It’s up to you.